My Dear Beautiful Strong Women.

My Dear Beautiful Strong Women.

When you have been in a relationship for so long and you have played a supportive role to his dreams and ambitions, at the expense of your own, sometimes it begins to make you feel as if you cannot survive on your own without him.




You know what I speak of;

• When you've had to have an unprotected sex to keep him happy, and terminated pregnancies to save the shame. 
• When you've had to lend him all your life savings because he says he wants to invest in a business idea; cash you know he will never refund. 
• When you've had to use your own peanut salary to put food on the table so you two can eat. 
• When you've had to give him your school fees to go start up something and lie to your parents about it just because you love him so much. 
• You've always considered him first before yourself, and you've invested so much in him, i understand.
• I understand all the times you've had to abandon all your plans of learning a trade and a skill because he needed the money. 
• I understand how you've had to split your school fees because he had nothing to survive on. 
• I understand the unprotected sex, cos you can do anything to keep him happy. 
• I understand how you've had to starve yourself of some essential girlie things just to save money for him, all the fancy clothes, and shoes, and jewelries you could have bought for yourself, if not for him. I understand.

So now that you have invested your all in him and you're EMPTY; he knows you have nothing else to offer him, he knows you're becoming a liability to him, and he's started to change.

He Doesn't treat you the same way anymore, his attitude has changed towards you, you know he wants you to leave but he cannot tell it to your face, and you're slowly falling out of love with him.

Perhaps Maybe right now it's a little difficult for you to turnaround. You probably cannot go back to school anymore, its probably too late for you to learn that skill, or go back to that trade you wanted to start..And so you have begin to doubt your own ability to support yourself, and you've decided to stick with him inspite of all the attitude he gives you, inspite of all the mess you receive from him, cos he's all you have right now. So you choose being unhappy over what loosing the relationship will mean to you, or rather let me rephrase, you chose being unhappy over what loosing your investments might mean to you. Oh dear! You're TRAPPED!

..Trapped in your mistakes.
..Trapped in your inability to differentiate between "BUILDING WITH A MAN" and "TRYING TO BUILD A MAN".

If this is YOU am talking about today, just breathe. It may look like you ain't got any options , but you've got alot of options dear, and the first of them is to LEAVE.

Don't chose a life of humiliation and unhappiness over all you've invested in a man. Let him go darling. See it like it was God using you to raise him, see it like you were his guardian angel, sent to help him get out of the lowly to where he is today. It might take some time, but dig deep down to the depth of who you are and find the fighter in You. NEVER SETTLE!
Where there is a will - there is always a way!

And to the Men doing all this, it's time to get up and get a Life. Treat that Lady the Same way you'd treat your Mother.

Written By Victor Willz Firdance

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